I learn from leaders. A very, very strong, resourceful and highly effective mentor of mine recently gave another masterful lesson. In her teaching, she gave me much to consider about myself and my beliefs in the face of opposition. In my dreams and desires for my life I already know many people will be drawn to me to help me achieve my goals. Even with this awareness I also know that I will encounter those who will not be in agreement. The Master Mentor, who is always looking for ways to help others, shared invaluable tools to help me stay committed to my own success.
Her first line of protection for her teachings was to create a system to capture her work that allows her the ability to “re-play” that work. It not only provides help to others who may have missed the original presentation; it is also a system of accountability. Those of us who have not firmed up our own accountability system must do so in our quest for greatness. I need to consistently review my work and see that it matches my plans and goals. Do I have integrity with my word, do I follow-up on the things I have said?
Secondly, the Master Mentor made it clear that you need to be clear and decisive about your purpose. Often times in facing the opposition we react defensively and began refuting the situation as opposed to focusing in on that crystal clear knowing about our true purpose. She used her explanations and expressions of who she was as offensive statements. She listened to the opposing views and politely continued to state what and why she was. She did not waiver in her stand. Her opposition had included angry and abusive comments, people who let her know that she did not meet their expectations of what and how she should express herself. For me, the old way would have been to go on the defense, shoot them down with my rage, and or my indignation and denial, and most probably, a few choice curse words.
During this class, she demonstrated other powerful aspects of a leader. I had been reviewing Che and Trevor’s Social Media Power www.cheandtreavor.com just before the class and her responses appeared as though she were reading from the same document! …Step 38.– Be Polite -she was that the entire time; Step 39. Advertise Successes- she did this with her stories of the many praises for information provided and so on. She addressed the issues and allowed open discussion. And guess what – in her freedom to allow ‘discussion’ she received nothing other than applauses for her stand. What a divinely inspired class!